Maybe when it feels like you are rather holed up alone in your room rather than to meet people but in certain situation you have to do that. Likes when you are in school, workplace, hospital, etc. You probably trying to memorize the right conversation beforehand to make people comfortable especially you. And then suddenly you feel anxious to do that because there is possibility you will screw up this “usual” human being interaction. You keep thinking is this better or is that better than this. You are dreading this moment that you hope just it passing by quickly just so you get over it. Let’s learn the 7 steps guides for introverts to socialize properly.
Well, you are not the only one who ever felt that why. Introverts will feel the same about socialize with people. It’s definitely not something that you should worry about whether it’s normal or not. In the situation that you need to blend with people, you can try to solve this with these few steps to make it easier for you:
1. Relax
It sounds so cliché. But this is true. You see, the thought of to face people and have conversation with them is in your head. That scares you because the idea itself is terrible. But you don’t have to think hard about that. Don’t overthink it that it keeps you up all night. Relax yourself, don’t think too much about it and just keep doing something you have to do. You can make yourselves relax with watching movies, videos on social media, or read books, or whatever you enjoy to do. Don’t think too much about yourself being introverts and can’t do it. You are as amazing as other people and definitely can socialize with them.
2. Be yourself
You don’t need to pretend to be someone else, you just need to be you. You are special. You have the ability to make people feel special too. Even if you are little awkward, it is will be more smoothly as time goes on. As you will know the person interest and maybe you have the same interest too and the conversation will be going on and on. That’s the perks we have as an introvert. You don’t realize it that being introvert have the quality abilities that other people had. Strengths of Introverts: Unveiling the Power Within
3. Genuine
People tend to fake their reaction when have conversation with others. You just need to be sincere, genuine, generous to people around you. It would be good for you when you think people you meet is good people, so you can be more generous with them. When you are being sincere, people will react positively and their reaction will be good. Because it will be from the heart to heart even though you are strangers or long acquaintances. Introverts are usually genuine with people around them because you are considerate other people feeling and you can utilize it to socialize with them.
4. Be kind
Kindness will always be rewarded. Even if from not the people you help or the people you are being kind to them. It will somehow reach back to you the kindness hundred times better. There is nothing wrong with that. You will earn their respect with kindness. Maybe you will think that you have to kind only to certain people that will give you benefits. The truth is when you are being kind to all people without looking at the background, when the times come that suddenly you need to do something, that people will help you and make it easier for you.
Not to brag, but just for the record, I am always trying to be kind with people around me even if that person is the most inconsiderate person in the place. In my work place, there is this person that people underestimate his job. He always makes people work harder than it was supposed to, but with me, I don’t even need to ask but he did it for me and make it easier for me.
One day, he resigned and have so much better job than me and my colleagues. Then he offered me the vacant place there, but I declined it because I would prefer my own abilities to have certain job. He told me to reach out to him if I was interested. He did as far as that not because there is personal interest or something, but because he appreciates when I do little thing like greets him with a smile when other people just ignore him. See, only greetings but it makes people be more appreciated.
5. Listen
That’s easy for introvert to do. But it’s hard for most of people. Why is it hard? We don’t need to talk much, right? That’s difficult for people because people love talking about themselves. People tends to be look out for their own selves than others. It makes them somehow better than others. That’s why people will talk more about themselves. That being said, introverts are excellent at listen to people and socializing is not about talking but also listening. You only need to listen what people say, it will make them happier with your company.
6. Reciprocates
When people talk with you, you need to reciprocates. Not necessarily you give them responses every time they say something. You can reciprocate it just with your gesture or expression. And when they ask you to give them your opinion, that’s your cue to give them your piece of mind with consideration. They feel more comfortable when they say that. Because it means they consider your opinion. Knowing introverts tend to have deep conversation when socialize with people around them, it will highly appreciated.
7. Appreciate
It’s not hard to get on positive light with people. You need to say something good about them, not only to make them feel good but for you to appreciate them. When you socialize with them, be sincere about it, don’t exaggerate or worse fake it. When you appreciate people, they will do something better than you could imagine. Because introvert have the ability to see the strength people around them. You can compliment them with that. People will cherish you.
Now, you don’t need to be panic talking with other people. Introverts can be excellent socialize with people too. You already have those excellent abilities; you only need to act on them. You will be such a great acquaintance, colleague, friends, cousins, or whatever that make people thankful you get to know you. Don’t underestimate yourselves, you are a great person once people know you. Good people will bring good people together and will create good environment. Be good!
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